Elevate Your Potential Magazine
(Author: J. Marie Novak) Confident people don’t go around comparing themselves to other people as a measure of how they stack up. Confident people learn from others. They seek mentors and coaches. They make sure they connect with others who can help them grow. But, they never, ever get caught up in the comparison trap.
When you compare yourself to others, you’re not focused on the unique strengths and talents you have. Comparison only undermines your sense of self. It breeds feelings of insecurity and jealousy. It also isn’t effective, as you only get a partial glimpse of reality. When you’re comparing yourself with others, you never know the whole story; hence, what you’re seeing is at best an incomplete picture of others anyway.
Dwelling on the past … whether it be on great things that happened or not-so-great things that happened … robs you of your ability to drink in the opportunities of today. Successful people just don’t do it and if you want to be more confident, neither should you.
Never Dwell on the Past
If you let another person’s praise be the only thing that lifts you up, then get ready for their criticism to tear you down. Who wants to be on that rollercoaster ride? Not confident people!
When you long for the praise and admiration of others, then you’re seeking confidence from outside of you, not within you. Confidence is an inside job. No one can bestow it on you.
Build Your Knowledge and Skills
One of the reasons confident people are so confident is that they are continually building their knowledge and skills. Confident people are avid readers. They also attend classes, seminars, and conferences, and join mastermind groups where they can connect and learn at same time.
The biggest mistake that confidence seekers make is believing that confidence is bestowed on you one day, and then everything is easier. Confidence comes from refusing to engage in the nine confidence-busting habits listed here and instead choosing to adopt the opposite behavior. Via pickthebrain.com
(TEDx Talks) As the Athletic Director and head coach of the Varsity Soccer team at Ryerson University, Dr. Ivan Joseph is often asked what skills he is searching for as a recruiter: is it speed? Strength? Agility? In Dr. Joseph’s TEDx Talk, he explores self confidence and how it is not just the most important skill in athletics, but in our lives.
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Feeling Like You Don’t Measure Up? 7 Tips to Increase Self-Esteem – GoodTherapy.org (blog) Young adult with curly hair stands in front of bike facing camera with smile Low self-esteem has become an epidemic in our society. Feelings of unworthiness and an impaired self-image can occur starting at a young age and may lead to mental health …
Five Small Steps For Improving Your Self Esteem – HuffPost UK Your self-esteem is a delicate creature. It can be damaged by many things – a break up of a relationship, a change in life or work circumstances – any dent in your sense of identity can leave you feeling less yourself and cause you to suffer a loss of …
Why You Should Stop Trying to Be More Confident – NBCNews.com Unfortunately, we don’t talk about this problem much. Everybody wants to increase self-confidence. That’s because confidence feels good. Confidence makes us feel powerful. But plenty of research shows that when we feel powerful it can be a slippery …
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