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- Bronnie Ware says that the way to have more inner peace is to be kinder to yourself. We have to be willing to let more joy in. If you’re doing your best, you’re doing enough. In this interview with Lewis Howes, get ready to learn about the top regrets of the dying and how you can live a more fulfilling life.
Topics Covered In This Episode:
The top five regrets of the dying (8:15)
Why it’s important to use death as a tool for life (12:30)
Bronnie’s journey through depression (23:00)
The importance of leaving space (30:00)
How to allow more joy in your life (36:00)
How to find inner peace (39:00)
Plus much more…
Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying | Bronnie Ware
For many years Bronnie Ware worked in palliative care. Her patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. She was with them for the last 3 to 12 weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance.
Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again…
Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
About Bronnie Ware
Bronnie Ware is an author, songwriter and speaker from Australia. She is a teacher of courage and regret-free living. Having sat by the bedsides of the terminally ill for several years, she knows the pain of dying with regret. She has written three books: The Top Five Regrets of Dying, Your Year for Change, and Bloom.
Bronnie has been interviewed or published by some of the largest publications in the world, including Wall Street Journal, The Guardian, The Observer, Harvard Business Review. She has been called many things. Above all she is authentic and bravely lives how her heart guides, free of any such labels or expectations.
- For the latest updates, news and information, visit her online at: https://bronnieware.com
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