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Cruel Self Talk - The Human Brain in Bondage

According to therapist Lea Seigen Shinraku, “People also use harsh self-talk to avoid doing things that are scary, to manage expectations and to find a sense of control.” | Image: Psych Central

Cruel Self Talk – You might say things like: What’s wrong with me? How could I be so stupid? How could I be so incompetent and inept? I can’t do anything right. Of course, I didn’t do well. I never do. Of course, I messed up. What else is new? Figures…

“There are many reasons why we speak so harshly to ourselves,” said Lea Seigen Shinraku, MFT, a therapist in private practice in San Francisco. Two of the most common reasons are: to motivate change and to defend against vulnerability, she said. Many people think “that if they aren’t hard on themselves, they will be lazy or never change.”

Cruel Self-Talk Is A Habit

Harsh self-talk is also a habit, said Sarah Margolin, LMFT, a therapist in private practice in New York City. Over time, you might’ve internalized the negative, critical voices of your caregivers. Today, those voices have become your own.

According to Shinraku, our harsh self-talk is actually an alarm that indicates we’re facing something scary. She stressed the importance of getting curious and exploring the underlying fear. Because once we delve deeper, the harshness tends to diminish.  Read the full story…. psychcentral.com

 

Getting stuck in the negatives (and how to get unstuck) | Alison Ledgerwood

(TEDx Talks) Alison Ledgerwood joined the Department of Psychology at UC Davis in 2008 after completing her PhD in social psychology at New York University. She is interested in understanding how people think, and how they can think better. Her research, which is funded by the National Science Foundation, investigates how certain ways of thinking about an issue tend to stick in people’s heads.

Her classes on social psychology focus on understanding the way people think and behave in social situations, and how to harness that knowledge to potentially improve the social world in which we all live.

 

More resources:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/jun/11/bullet-journalling-can-you-write-your-way-to-happinessCan you write your way to happiness? – The Guardian Prescriptive travel diaries (“Enjoy the lightly guided prompts for agendas, lists and observations”) bump up against journals claiming to focus on inner truth (“Featuring over 70 thought-provoking quotes from fellow self-improvers, this journal is …

 

 

http://globegazette.com/news/local/mental-health-issues-growing-among-iowa-high-schoolers/article_36d5018b-e5e0-5197-928d-21c8ba1790e5.htmlMental health issues growing among Iowa high schoolers – Mason City Globe Gazette A 2013 survey of teens and adults by the American Psychological Association found 30 percent of teens reported sadness or depression from stress, and 31 percent felt overwhelmed and that their stress had increased in the past year. During the school …

 

 

http://www.floswimming.com/article/57391-how-to-strengthen-your-self-talk-skillsHow To Strengthen Your Self-Talk Skills – FloSwimming Today, we will talk about some self-talk skills (reframing, mantras, focus cues, reset cues) that athletes use to positively influence their performance. … Chip graduated from Centre College in 2011, where he swam, with degrees in History and Psychology.

 

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/08/smarter-living/benefits-of-talking-to-yourself-self-talk.htmlThe Benefits of Talking to Yourself – New York Times The fairly common habit of talking aloud to yourself is what psychologists call external self-talk. And although self-talk is sometimes looked at as just an eccentric quirk, research has found that it can influence behavior and cognition. “Language …

 

 

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